Happy marriage is made by God.

Marriage is a long road to happiness. It can start with many hurdles and obstacles, but eventually it spreads to greener pastures of enjoyment and contentment.  Life is unpredictable and when we fall in love with this specific person, it is good if both of you have the same values, same morals, and same religious background. Life has too many issues as is, without having more issues with the basics of marriage. 

I was lucky to have fallen in love with a guy who was raised in a similar religion as I, and with same out look on life, like me. Looking back, I am grateful for this and acknowledge that God was very much in my life and took care of me, when I was young and lacked wisdom. 

On my 18th birthday I prayed to God to give me a gift. He did, I met my future husband then. What drew me to him was that he was so serious about life and about relationships, he was 4 years older, and to an 18 year old that is incredible. The guys I knew were flirtatious and not serious to have a relationship. 

We got married when I was 21, and we started our marriage with a clean slate of trust and love. God was good to us, now 20 years later, I am amazed at His provision in our life. His constant care for us, and our love that grew with the years. 

If you are still single and are looking for your other half, remember to include God in your love life, He is the one who can write a beautiful love story that can last through all the obstacles, through all the problems and issues of marriage.

Living a pure life.

Reading this post this morning, I started to think about my own childhood, how we were raised. My parents had a large family and our dad read the bible every day to us, we prayed every morning and before going to sleep. My dad always spoke about living for Jesus and being holy. I remember how he told us to save our self for marriage and to stay pure. I always had this fear of God in my heart that He was watching me, and I was shy to even think about kissing anyone outside of marriage. In high school I was supper shy, and had no problems in keeping my self pure and saved for someone special. When I turned 19 years old, I prayed to God to give me a present for my birth day. And He did. I met my husband on my birthday, well I actually invited him, a new boy at church to my birthday celebration. That's when we started to get to know each other, through phone calls, visits, and lots of wonderful trips. Then he had to move to CA and we kept in touch, kept the long distance romance going. It was wonderful when we finally decided to get married and after a 3 year romance-dating we got married. We talked about keeping ourselves pure for marriage, we were both raised that sex outside of marriage was a big "No-No". I am glad God kept us both to our promise and we entered our marriage as pure and untarnished virgins.

Now we have been married for almost 14 years, and God has blessed our, and our marriage is strong and loving, and I am thankful that God has given me such a wonderful gift when I turned 19.

Husband for sale!

A 36 year old white male is for sale. He is hardworking, plays with children, loves to do yard work, easy going, laughs a lot, loves good food, goes to church, is active in church, loves music and beauty, is gentle and kind.

Wait!
All of those good qualities... I think I will keep him. Not for sale anymore.

Sometimes when marriage is going through some rough spots, we think that we rushed into marriage, that maybe if we waited, we could have got a different, better spouse. But truly, every marriage will go through times of uncertainty, sadness, lonesomeness and struggles. It is just part of life. When we get married to that one special person, and then start to live with our spouse, we tend to rub each other, like rocks, molding into each other, yes, sometimes it hurts, sometimes we rather would quit and not go farther. Mostly we turn out OK, more in love, more in tune with each other, more kinder, knowing each other just a bit more.

Yes, all of us have a lot of negative qualities, but just like the list up top, we do have tons of good qualities as well. If we only make a list of all the good things our spouse has, or does, we wont be disappointed. If your marriage is in trouble, or you feel sad and alone, or if its on the brink of a divorce, and you cant possibly list a single good thing about your spouse, list the things that brought you together in the first place. What attracted you in him, what endeared him to you, what made you fall in love with him in the beginning. Think about those things, and I hope it will be enough for you to stay together, and love each other even more. 

I Pray to God that He will bring us both together again, to love and to cherish till death do us part.

Lead me my strong husband.

Love this song. I always wanted to know why we crave a strong male leadership in our life. Why do we as little girls need our dad to be there for us, why do we look up for love, for understanding, and when we don't find it in our father, we seek for love elsewhere, sometimes in many boyfriends, sometimes with wrong crowds. We get in trouble, emotionally and physically. We are attracted to strong, masculine men, who are strong as a rock. Who will be there for us emotionally and physically. We need that in our life, like we need water. That's how I see God as well. Strong as a rock, capable to move mountains, loves me unconditionally, died for me, has redeemed me, rescued me, and in the end will carry me over the thresh hold of our heavenly kingdom.

When we get married we have such beautiful dreams, about loving each other and being such good wives to our husbands, how we would never let them down, how he would love us and wash dishes for us every night, and rub my feet every night, and bring me coffee to bed every morning.... well it sure is unrealistic sometimes. We get married and we wake up from the beautiful dream we were making for our self. Sometimes its a bit of a hard stop. Every marriage goes through tough times, its the learning to stick it out through all the hard stops, learning to love each other more strongly and learning to trust God to guide you both to the right destination. I hope you are in a good spot in your marriage, and I hope God is guiding you every step of the way in the season of life you are going through.

Marriage trouble.

We all go through marriage problems on and off. One day its better, and you feel loved and the next day you feel sad, and unloved and feel like the marriage has hit the rocks. I have been married for ten years and went through some tough years, with some moments thinking why I even married this man, maybe there is someone else who is better. A lot of us go through different stages in a married life.

In the first years of marriage I was lonely, and was upset that my husband didn't want to spend all his free time with me. Then I went through a stage where I was upset when he didn't show me acts of love in "my" way. I was blind to the acts of kindness and love that he was showing me in his own unique ways. Then I went through some months of disappointment in my husband, I thought he wasn't acting how he should be acting, so I tried to "explain" to him how he should act. I tried hard to change him to no avail, he wouldn't even badge. Sad to say I went through a lot of months, and possibly years in my marriage being frustrated and upset at him. There were a few issues we were going through and some of those issues still remain today, that made me really sad, angry and complaining when my husband did not see those issues as huge problems for our family.

Finally there was a time in my life, that I felt so unhappy, as tears streamed down my face, I sat and cried out to God. To help him heal my marriage, to change me, and make me be a better wife. That's when God started to change me, not my husband. He started to show me all the ways I tried to control my husband, all the times I complained, and He started to work on my heart.

I brought Him my loneliness and He filled me with peace.
I brought Him my sadness and He filled me with joy.
I gave Him all the family issues, and He promised to carry me through them all. He did not say he would remove them from my life, but that He would help me through the hard times, that he would carry me when I couldn't walk. I offered him my health, my children, my husband, my marriage.

I love the gentle ways God works in our life. He hand guiding us through the rough patches. I remember crying hard in the bathroom as I felt Him comfort me and fill me with His amazing presence. I am forever thankful in different ways He carried me in my marriage and filled it with hope and love.

He has removed the neediness, the clinging, the controlling nature and all the dirt to see the gold beneath all the tarnish. In Him alone I found true love, with which I was able to love my husband more. I found true happiness and joy.  In God alone. I still have a lot to learn, and there are days I fall back to my old ways and of course make myself miserable. I am glad we have God in our life, who lifts up our souls and helps us through the dark time in our marriage.

I pray that you find the same comfort in Him alone, and that He is the one who heals your marriage.

Here is a link to a  some nice advice on marriage as well from focus on the family.

Focus on the family- give your marriage to Jesus.

10 year anniversary.

I have been married for ten years now.... Wow, it sure went by quick. There were a lot of lessons we learned from each other, a lot of bumps, and a lot of love. I hope the next ten years will pass with less bumps and for us to learn to love each other more each day. We took a little trip to the ocean, took a whole bunch of pretty scenery, ate at great restaurants, and slept in a lovely hotel, with a fireplace in our room. It was a nice little get away, but even then we could not spend time before we got into an argument.... good things those don't last long with us...:)

This huge park we went to, was really beautiful. We took like a hundred photos just in that one place...

I just love the ocean. Its so majestic and so peaceful at the same time.

So many photos, so many memories. Good thing I have pictures to remind me of the trip we took, and the beauty I saw, for my memory will eventually forget, but then my mind will remember when I look at these beautiful photos.

The love so true-it hurts.

He loves me so much

He cheers me up when I am down

He knows my moods, my joys, my tears

He cares for me, takes care of all the things that I dont want to do myself

He forgives and forgets often

He laughs at me, and lets me laugh at him

He cares for our children

He is a strong wall where I can hide from this world

I know that he will support me, and help me with my mistakes and shortcomings

He is someone who I can ask questions and someone who listens to my answers

He is a gift from God.

But God is my true love

He knows my ways

He knows my faults

He knows my heart

He has created me

He has known me before I was born

He knows my future and my past

He lifts me up when I am down

He knows all the answers to all my questions

He knows all of my thoughts, my hopes, my wishes

He has forgiven me of all my sins, has died for me

He will come for me, when he will wipe every tear from my eye

He is the One

He is the Only

He is the Lover of my soul

His name is Jesus.

Lord and Savior.

Why did I want to get married?

When I was young and not married, I thought that getting married was the best thing that could happen in anyone’s life. Falling in love with that special someone, having them love me, and do everything for me, and be gentle and caring toward me, would be the dream come true. That’s how I imagined a married life would be. I never knew that I would have to work at marriage, or that sometimes my husband would not want to be loving toward me, but will hold a grudge against me when I would be acting childish or spoiled. Even seeing my parents constantly bicker and complain, didn’t stop me from fantasizing that I could do better in a marriage.


I didn’t know that a marriage is two people molding into each other, each person with his own personality, his own character, and their own habits, likes and dislikes. I did not know that I cant change my husband, or that I should not try to mold him in to a more 'better' person. I did not know that God didn’t not make marriage to make me fulfilled or happy. Why not, isn’t it what a good marriage all about?

And so begun my journey in my married life, the ups and the downs, the sweet moments, and the bitter tears. The hopes and disappointments all swirled around me as the years went by. Little by little I learned that each day in a marriage is a way to better one self and love the person I am married to. Even if he is not perfect, and has his faults and problems, I learned to love him for who he is, for his gentle and caring way, his love for me, even when I acted spoiled and childish. With God's amazing grace we grew to love each other more with each passing year, and now almost 10 years married I look back at the young, star-gazed girl I was to what I learned and become, and I am thankful for all the lessons, the tears, the hardships.

For marriage is not for me to be fulfilled but for me to become a better person, and in becoming that better person, and in loving Jesus more with each lesson in my marriage, I feel fulfilled. I feel happy, I feel loved.

Untill death do us part.

Marriage is two souls united into one. Some times I feel like I am not in tune with my husband, that he doesn’t understand my hearts desires, my hopes, and dreams. Its hard to understand that those hopes and dreams of mine will never come true. In realizing that some hopes of mine are just bubbles in the air, that go up and pop in the slightest breeze, makes me feel sad and sometimes angry. My dear husband gets the brunt of it.


Every girl coming into marriage brings her hopes and dreams into the union, sometimes those dreams are valid, while sometimes they could be foolish or childish. A lot of marriages fall apart due to those childish hopes, dreams, or demands on the wife’s part. Realizing that getting your way in every situation is not realistic or wise. Having a husband who is firm but loving is a blessing indeed.

Sometimes no matter what I still don’t have my way, and in those times my only strength is leaning on Jesus. He does understand me, He is the only one who can carry me through. As I said that sometimes my wishes turn into demands, that my husband doesn’t take easily to, we get into an argument, things get tense and we ignore each other… but the redeeming quality we have is that we cant ignore each other too long. We look into each other eyes, and either smile, giggle, or laugh… then we fall into each others arms and ask forgiveness. But the road to this is a long and rocky one, through many pit falls, and many tears on my part.

I used to cry so much when my husband didn’t understand me, when I though he was unloving, or didn’t behave in a certain way that I thought he should have been behaving. Those years are far behind me now, thank God, but they thought me that every person is his unique self, and shows love in his own way. I believe that each woman will learn in her marriage and grow more wise and understanding toward her husband. So that when her wishes or desires don’t come true, she realizes that her hearts desire is actually submitting to her husband and finding joy in loving Jesus, and being loved by Him in return, with an everlasting, most powerful love than any human can give. In that I find hope, love and patience to go on, to love my husband more, and in return I feel his love increase towards me, as he becomes a more godly man.

Beware.... a housewife to do list, never ends!

Today I am catching up... with laundry! It seems as soon as I had my third child, laundry just never ends. It starts sitting in different piles, whites or colored clothes... wet towels, swimsuits and a ton of work clothes... there is a pile of mismatched socks... Lucky me, I am the one for the job. No one else takes care of the laundry, except me... I guess that makes me an expert, huh? My hubby didn't even know how to use the washing machine or how to use the dryer. Yes, past tense, now he does know... I hear that a lot of husbands tend to miss out on doing laundry... lucky us!!

Keeping house organized is my specialty as well... cleaning out closets, bookshelves, girls room and making sure the girls have clean clothes is on my to do list always....

Cooking and cleaning the kitchen is my forte as well, no one else thinks of cleaning the spilled milk in the fridge, or wiping splatters off the stove top, nope... if I don't do it, it will sit there until Jesus second coming.

I always wonder, is this how God created women in general, to be housewife's, homemakers, mothers, and caregivers... as well as loving wives to our dear husbands?

Its a very fulfilling role to be able to do all of the mentioned above, and be a happy, optimistic wife. The number one reason why it is fulfilling and promising, is when we know that the way we clean, fold laundry or take care of our children can never be done any better by someone else. You look behind you on everything that you accomplished, some days more, and some days less and congratulate yourself on the job well done.

A lot of women I know don't really love the job that they are given. They do it out of responsibility, and complain about doing it every minute, which makes it an exhausting chore. They always ask themselves is this what I am to do for the rest of my life? Clean after my children, cook for my family, wash dishes and wipe after my husband when he always splatters water on the sink top?

Sometimes my list of things to do is way too long... and never gets done... because by the time I finish the whole list of things to do, I need to start over from the beginning, since everything is a mess again..:)

Being a woman, a homemaker, a housewife, a mother, a wife is a hard job... but we are blessed with little feet, and little hands, and sticky kisses.... with strong embraces, scratchy chins.... with a clean house, a home, a family.....

Two are better than on, because they have a good return for their work; If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? {Ecclesiastes 4:9-11}

I thee wed...

What greater thing is there for two human souls than to feel that they are joined for life, to strengthen each other in all labor, to rest on each other in all sorrow, to minister to each other in all pain, to be one with each other in silent unspeakable memories of the moment of the last parting?
George Eliot

The white Cinderella dress. The lovely gossamer veil. The white satin shoes. The special bouquet of flowers. The walk down the aisle. The ‘I do's’… The forever after.
What makes a man and a woman fall in love, get married and have children? Everyone I know are always either looking for that perfect mate, already in a relationship, or married. That’s how God made us, we need to love and be loved. To be desired. Most of us want to have a little child, our offspring. Most of us found that perfect someone to share their life with. Some people are still looking. Others cant find that one perfect person, with all the qualities they must have.
Its so special how we fall in love. The most common way for a man and a woman to get married, is when they fall in love. Sweet love. How long does it last? Forever? Like it says in the bible Love never fails.
But so many people are having marriage problems. Why is that?
This month its my 9 year marriage anniversary. Its amazing how the years just flew by, and now 9 years and 3 kids later we are still together. We had our precious, joyful moments. And we had our rough patches. Its funny sometimes to look back at myself as the young girl who got married, with stars in her eyes, and hopes for a future filled with everlasting happiness. I believe most of us feel like that, we are just unprepared for the dry patches in our garden of love, of harsh words, of selfishness, or not understanding the person you married to. As a christian its against my upbringing to divorce, unless he cheats on me, so no matter how the rough patches are rubbing me, or how upset I am at my husband I still have to stick it out, get help, or work on it myself.

Thank God I got blessed with a perfect husband… Not. He is human and so am I. I am not perfect, far from it, but a lot of times I demand my dear husband be perfect. Did you notice that men don’t like to be told what they should be doing…? I finally got it, and instead of working on his character, or his “bad” traits, I started to work on my own. Wow… sometimes its funny how blind we- as women can be. As soon as I started to work on my self, to not criticize what my husband is doing, and not boss him around, my life turned for the better and the love we shared in the first years of marriage came back stronger then before. Instead of seeing the negative aspects of my marriage, now I see the good and the positive. Oh, and what a difference it makes. It just brings so much beauty into the marriage relationship.
The books that opened my eyes are called:
‘Woman- aware and choosing’, by Betty Coble. & ‘Fascinating womanhood’, by Helen Andelin. Some aspects of the books I don’t really agree on, but the whole concept is amazing. Try and read for yourself, it can never hurt. I wish all of you are having great marriages. Let me know how you handle the dry patches....